NO! I don't have a problem with it. Obviously. But... 2 weeks camping with my mother-in-law, being home for 2 weeks getting unpacked and settled back into a routine... and I swear if I hear that comment from her one more time, I just might have to scream!
For 4+ weeks now... since the kiddo got all his top teeth in at once... my mil makes comment about me still nursing him, at every chance she gets. Standing around at a shop and someone talking to the kiddo says something to the effect of "Look at all those teeth you have." MIL pipes in with "Yes. And she's still nursing!" As if it is any of their concern or business what I am doing with my b*oobs.
Mind you... I'm not at all private about that. I am very much a public nurser. Church. Restaurants. Mall. Walking through the store. Zoo. You name it. I am not at all concerned with "whipping it out" and feeding my kid. And we don't use a cover up or blanket... so it's all out there for viewing. I tried several times with a cover. But he just grabs it and pulls it off because he doesn't like his face covered... so I gave up. Public nursing it is.
But, when we're nursing in public, that's MY call. I get to say how it goes and who gets to know about it. (You'd be surprised at how discreet we can be nursing in the carrier. Most people have no clue what's going on.) It is NOT for her to say who gets to hear about what I do with my b*reasts.
And it's not like she is proud of the fact that I'm still nursing him. Her tone does NOT come across that way at all. More like I'm some weirdo. She usually follows the announcement with a story about how she nursed both her boys til they were around 6 months and then when they started getting teeth decided she'd "had enough of that" and weaned them. Like her way is the way it should be. (2 weeks camping. Got a lot of that. "I did it this way with my boys and they turned out just fine").
Good for her. But, that doesn't work for us. We are going strong, with no intention of stopping anytime soon.
And I don't fully understand WHY it is such a big deal to her. Sister-in-law nursed the nephew until he was a year old. Granted, she weaned him practically the day he turned one. But... he had teeth and nursed til then and nothing was ever said about it. So, I'm not sure why it's a big deal for me to be doing it. I can only imagine the comments that will come when I don't wean him at one and tell her I plan on going until he's at least 2.
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Saw a very close friend a few days ago. Hadn't seen her in a while, so she hadn't seen the kiddo with all his teeth. Asked me if I was still nursing. Yes. Asked "but doesn't that hurt?" So... I gave her this analogy: "You have a mouth full of teeth. Does it hurt when you give a guy a bl*ow job?" We both laughed. But, then she understood... having never nursed a baby. Teeth don't matter.
Maybe if MIL continues... I'll use that analogy with her.
9 comments:
glad you're still blogging:) i'm glad all that mil time is over for now...good for you on the nursing in public!! and you do what's right for you and your baby, not what she thinks is right...not that i need to tell you that:)
I'm cracking up. I think you should totally tell her about the blow job and teeth. hahaha. Anyhow, aren't people annoying. I didn't get too much of it until after 1 year but then people, even close friends and my family, were a little weirded out about it. Now I'm preggars with #2 and they keep asking me, "So you don't plan to do again that long with this child, right?" whatever people. lol.
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Use the blow job analogy with your mil and then tell us about it... that would be funny.
Oh please use the blow job analogy with her!!!!!! I need some good entertaining news. I am all for anyone that can breastfed and have it go well. I say more power to you!!! And it is between YOU and your child. Not one thing any of us or the rest of the world says should matter!!!!
Dawnie
Love the BJ analogy. "I have a mouthful of teeth, your son never complained about all my teeth ..."
Good to hear from you.
"I have a mouthful of teeth, your son never complained about all my teeth ..."
I'm ROFL over this....wow! so funny imagining me saying that to MY mil, let alone imagining you saying it to yours. that's just great. ha.
Too funny. My sil nursed my nephew until he was 2 years old! Yeah we all thought it was a little weird, but it was their decision, not ours and we didn't say anything rude to them or tell complete strangers. It was their business. The problem with her was that at 2 years of age...ALL he was getting was her milk and the baby food you feed your infant. Now at 3 years of age, he has graduated to blueberry muffins and juice and he doesn't know how to chew food or swallow! This kid doesn't know what to do with french fries!
I say - nurse if you wanna nurse and let mil worry about something else. (like the blow job analogy.)
You go girl! I nursed my son a couple months shy of 2 years old. I got a bit of crap but I never heard the teeth comment. Thanks for the laugh, I loved your comment. I never thought of it that way, will put in my arsenal just in case.
Yay, you're still here! I haven't been able to visit blogs in forever!!! But I'm glad to see you're still around and sharing about your family. I get comments all the time about "still" nursing and Ethan is only 4 months! (Though he does now bite and it hurts even though he's toothless...) My family loves to ask why he's not getting rice cereal yet or why I'm still nursing. Ugh. I wish people would mind their own business.
BTW great way of comparing the teeth issue. ;)
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