Is it just that I'm tired and hormonal and ready to be done with pregnancy? It has to be that. Surely these wouldn't bother me so much if I wasn't already cranky and miserable, right? Or does every pg women hate hearing these same questions over and over and over... and wish you could give the answer that's REALLY on your mind, instead of the "smile and be polite about it" one?
1. When are you due again?
November 6.
The simplest answer for this one really is to just spout off the date. But come ON. How many times do we have to tell you? And how many times do you really need to ask?
2. You STILL haven't had that baby?
Yes I have. I just loved the look so much I stuck a basketball under my shirt.
It's a pretty obvious answer. Why point it out?
3. So how are you feeling?
I'm swollen all over, my back hurts, my boobs leak and I haven't slept well in weeks. Getting comfortable is impossible. I'm carrying around an extra 25 pounds and have a person inside of me who can't sit still for 5 minutes. How do you think I feel?
I actually had a conversation with our minister about this one very early on it my pregnancy. Once people found out I was pg, they stopped with the standard "Hi. How are you?" that prompts the polite "Fine, thanks. You?" No. I don't think I've heard "How are you?" since getting pg. Each and everytime now it is "How are you feeling?" And trust me. You don't REALLY want to know.
4. What did the doctor say? Any news on when?
That I'm pregnant.
This one always comes from people who know you have recently had an appointment. But I just don't know what they are expecting the doctor to say. I'm pregnant. I know they're hoping to hear that I could be going into labor soon and how big the doc thinks the baby will be. But... it's a DOCTOR. Not a fortune teller. I've known women to go in at 38 weeks and show absolutely no signs of progress and have their baby that night. And just as many women to be dilated to a 3 at 36 weeks and not deliver until 42. I just don't put much stock into any of the numbers and all I really want to hear at the doctor is that baby and I are still doing fine.
5. Any contractions yet?
Only Every. Single. Day. for the last 15 to 20 weeks. Who cares?
Rates right up there with the numbers at the doctor. Braxton-Hicks. Practice. Lots and lots and lots of them, but they do nothing. They don't mean a thing if they ain't got that scream...
And last, but not least... and certainly MY personal favorite to answer:
6. When are you going to have another one?
You're kidding, right?
Let's see. It took us 2 1/2 years to get to this point. One miscarriage. One surgery. Many doctor visits. Multiple procedures. Fertility drugs. Heartbreak. Frustration. And this baby is not yet safely in our arms. And you think I'm ready to discuss another one. Thanks, but I'd like to love and appreciate this little miracle for a while, first.
About Me
- Kitkat
- The hubby and I were married in April 2004 and share our home with our furbaby (dog), Pepper, a fish named Donny and a snake named Ralph. We began trying right away to have a baby and got pregnant on our honeymoon. Sadly, we faced a miscarriage a couple months later. November 2004 we started Clomid. In January 2005, looking back at all we've already been through on this journey, I decided to start journaling our road to a baby... which is now here for all to view.
5 comments:
Howdy,
I'm due on the 6th also, with our first little boy (and we had trouble getting to this point as well!!)
The statement I hate the most at this point is the following:
"When are you due? Oh no... you won't go by then... you totally have a few more weeks to go..."
And that's even from my grandmother. I told my mother I am going to stop talking to her because it just drives me nuts to hear her say that with no regard to the fact that I am ready to have this child born! I'd rather hear "you look fat" all day long then "it's going to be a few more week"
However I can relate with all that you've written!!! Good luck and know that we're all in this due date/delivery date wait together!
:-) Alison
http://peainapod.blogspot.com
Those do get very annoying don't they...
LOL, I can relate. Oh, and it's absolutely fine for people to comment about how big or small you are. Don't get that one.
I had to take my rings off a few weeks ago. My fingers feel really naked now.
When will you have another? If only it were that easy to say, "we gonna space them x years apart!" Like we have the power to decide! Hang in there. Hope to meet your little one soon!
Hang in there Kat! I had Dylan at 38 weeks, so from what I gather I missed the worst of it! :-) I HATE that last question, boy do I ever. Of course it's usually my in-laws asking. They asked literally the very first time they met Dylan and I blew up at them! I said, "Can't we just enjoy Dylan for crying out loud?! He's just a few days old and already you want to move on to the next one? Let him be the center of attention for a while, please!" Argh! They don't know about the previous m/c, but nonetheless it's still an absurd time to be asking. Anyway, can't wait to see your baby boy!
Janine (June 04 Angels)
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